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The Lady Is My Boss:   A Look at Three Male Secretaries (Assistants?)

By Steve Alan Edwards

This was to have been an article about male secretaries and the women who employ them. Unfortunately, I am forced to report to you, as well as to my editor, that there are no more secretaries, male or female. Gone. Vanished. Kaput. Even the word secretary has been abolished from the corporate lexicon. Too bad, because it was such a good word. From the Latin root secretum, it used to mean "keeper of secrets."

"Administrative assistant" just doesn't have the same ring to it, but that's what we're left with in this enlightened, politically correct era. An administrative assistant, of course, is something other than the soap opera cliché of the sexy but highly efficient paragon who looks up at her boss with adoring eyes and understands him in a way his wife never could.

But even the soap opera stereotype was an evolutionary successor to the secretaries of the 19th century. In that far-gone age, secretaries wore white shirts and ties and were well-nigh exclusively men. Perhaps Scrooge would have been a tad less dour if, instead of Bob Cratchit, he had a Dolly Parton look-alike to handle his correspondence. Unfortunately for Ebenezer, women did not enter the business work force until the two world wars created a shortage of male workers.

On the eve of the 21st century, the work place again is undergoing not-so-subtle shifts. Most important, the occupant of the corner office is increasingly likely to be female. She is exercising her prerogative to hire whom she pleases as her assistant, and sometimes she chooses a man. Though still rare, there are men capable of answering phones, typing, and yes, even making coffee.

***

"Maybe I was looking for a man," admits Donna Brown, general manager and co-owner of the TekShop, speaking of the day she hired her assistant Douglas Sells. She had lost three female assistants in two years. One left to work for a publisher, one went off to nursing school, and the third, a young mother, decided to open a day care center so she could be closer to her child. Doug, 30 years old, has been with Donna for more than five years.

The TekShop is a cluttered, nerdy sort of place, appropriate to its line of work--installing and maintaining computer networks and systems. Donna is laid-back and unassuming, the antithesis of a stereotypical business executive. Nevertheless, she runs the business and runs it successfully, along with her husband Tim. Her soft-spoken assistant, Doug, seems to have adopted her attitude, slouching easily into a sofa in the back office.

Doug does all the traditional secretarial things, opening the mail, making appointments, typing. He screens Donna's calls--"otherwise, she'd be on the phone all day, and couldn't get any work done," he notes. However, in this small business, Doug has become a kind of Jack-of-all-trades. His favorite task is accounting, and he's working toward a degree in accounting at Nashville Tech.

Doug has also adopted the role of bill collector and has made it part of his job to lean on customers whose accounts are past due. "I'll threaten them. I can be mean," he asserts, though his soft Tennessee drawl seems unsuited for hostility. Donna, for her part, admits she is too easy on debtors: "I feel sorry for them," she says.

Doug believes women must be more aggressive than men to succeed in business. He should know. Through some curious quirk of the ‘90s business environment, he has never had a male supervisor.

Has Donna ever yelled at Doug?

"Well," she ventures sheepishly, "we made a mistake yesterday."

"I made a mistake yesterday," continues Doug, admitting to inadvertently discarding a critical piece of correspondence. Donna doesn't yell, he avers, although he admits there are some "tense moments."

Donna, for her part, is uncomfortable about expressing emotions in a business situation. As a woman, she worries that her feelings will be discounted as "PMS or hormones, or something."

Though they've adapted well to the information age, neither Donna nor Doug seems totally at ease with it. Donna married into the computer business, and says she's "been dragged along, kicking and screaming." Doug keeps the traditional Rolodex and appointment calendar on his small desk. Why doesn't he store that information on the computer? He points an accusing finger toward the monitor: "That thing can die," he says. "And then what do you do?" The TekShop, of course, has multiple backup solutions they sell for just such an eventuality, but like the proverbial cobbler with no shoes, they are behind in equipping their own office.

Though they may not be techies, the TekShop owes much of its success to Donna and Doug. "We're a team," avers Donna. "Without us, this place would shut down."

***

Keeping the business running at the Columbia Centennial Surgery Center is chief administrator Cynthia DuVall, along with her assistant, Frank Hall. Cynthia grew up in a day when the only acceptable professions for women were secretarial, teaching and nursing. She chose the latter, in lieu of her real ambition, to become a doctor.

"Nursing is changing, " says Cynthia. "It used to be a real vocation for people who cared for other people, but more and more, it's becoming just another technically driven job." In any case, her skills at handling people have propelled her to greater responsibilities. Currently, the 70 or so employees of this surgery center all answer to her. She runs it as an autonomous unit; her closest supervisor in the giant corporate parent, Columbia Healthcare, is in Dallas.

Frank, 42, is a large, affable man with a bushy mustache sprouting over an ingratiating smile. Dolly Parton he most certainly is not--it is difficult to imagine a greater leap from the secretary she portrayed in the movie 9 to 5. Still, he does the typing when required. He admits to no great typing proficiency, but these days, blazing typing speed is less of an requisite than other skills--such as his facility with computers, spreadsheets, databases and word processing programs. Previously, he was the office manager at a small publishing firm.

Frank doesn't screen Cynthia's calls. "She has an open door policy for the employees, and practically an open phone policy, as well," he explains. Operating in a service industry, Cynthia is acutely sensitive to the feelings of patients as well as the physicians with whom she works. She feels that as executives, men are often too direct and undiplomatic, and she brings a woman's empathetic touch to her job as administrator.

Cynthia likes Frank's businesslike attitude. Some of her previous female assistants, she says, actually preferred a more traditional secretarial role, which wasn't what she wanted or needed. "They wanted to pick up my laundry, and become part of my life in a personal way," she says. Rather than taking on more responsibility, they would stretch the work they had to fit the available time. Frank, in contrast, has expanded his role at the surgery center, taking over parts of payroll and human resource duties

Businesslike or not, Frank does see it as part of his job to cheer Cynthia up, to lighten the load if she becomes upset over a work situation. Cynthia appreciates his even temper and patience.

Does Frank mind taking orders from a woman? "No," he replies with a smile. "My wife has trained me well."

His attitude at work, he says, approaches a servant mentality: "When I'm at work," he says, "Cynthia is my master."

Making light of Frank’s suggestion, Cynthia adds with a laugh, "I try not to whip him too often.

***

Another team, a complementary odd couple, manages the activities of Lovell Communications, Inc., a public relations firm whose clients include hospitals, physicians and bankers. Paula Lovell, the founder, occupies the literal corner office. "I have two windows instead of one," she points out. Her assistant, Jeff Goodson, 24, was formerly a "struggling young account executive" at the firm. When Paula's female assistant left, she encouraged Jeff to take over the role, offering significant financial inducements. More important, in Jeff's view, she promised to promote his "professional development."

Jeff, in his gray business suit, looks like a rising young executive. Although a terrible typist who can't take dictation, he has all the right skills for the job, says Paula. "Mainly Jeff manages me and my time," she says. "He has the temperament it takes to work with a hyper, high-strung, driven, obsessive-compulsive boss."

Jeff, despite his youth, does seem to exude a kind of patient tranquillity in marked counterpoint to Paula's manic intensity. Part of his job is to run interference for Paula, translating her sometimes intemperate remarks for the benefit of clients. "Tell that S.O.B. I never want to see him again!" becomes "I'm sorry, Paula is currently unavailable. Perhaps we could schedule an appointment for later in the week."

Paula points to Jeff's creativity and versatility as important qualifications. Not only does he help in some of the design work, but he has been an impromptu actor in some of Paula's presentations.

Though maleness was not part of the job description for administrative assistant when she hired Jeff, Paula does see some gender differences between him and her former assistants. "With Jeff, I can be more direct," she says. With her female assistants she had to "walk on eggs" when it came to necessary criticism. Jeff is less likely to take Paula's occasional frustration personally.

"Paula is a tough boss, maybe the toughest in Nashville," concedes Jeff, "but the best there is. Some people just don't want a boss who really pushes them."

Jeff came to Nashville from Arkansas after obtaining a degree in public relations from Harding University. Eventually, he wants to combine his work in PR with his love of music, perhaps as a promoter. A musician himself, his office wall sports a silly Elvis clock juxtaposed with a poster of Leonard Bernstein.

He sees his work with Paula as a kind of graduate education. "Every day I absorb things from Paula that they could never teach you in school," he says. He also is making invaluable contacts, as Paula is careful to introduce him to the movers and shakers she knows at business meetings and charity events.

Although he and Paula are friendly, Jeff knows where the line is drawn. "She owns the business," he points out. "The biggest thing I own is my car, which I'm still making payments on."

At the same time he's getting an education in public relations, Jeff is being tutored as the "perfect companion" by the other nine employees of Lovell Communications, all female, who apparently think men need some instruction in this area. According to Paula, he's the most eligible bachelor in Nashville.

Ever the PR person, Paula has chosen a spot in front of the corporate logo as the perfect spot for pictures. Jokingly, she instructs Jeff to gaze at her with admiration for the shot. Our photographer, hoping for a more natural pose, moves the scene to Paula's office and requests a "high-five."

"Well, we don't really do high-fives here. What do we do instead?" Paula muses. Impulsively, she grabs the startled Jeff in an affectionate hug.

Steve Alan Edwards has written articles on Transhuman, science,  and environmental issues.  You can see his articles on his website at http://users.aol.com/salaned/writer.htm

 

 

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